Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit To Harmony In Sexual Relationships [EPUB]

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• Year: 2,010

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• Pages: 416

• Language: English

• Topic: 201

• Identifier: 9781583942987,158394298X

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• Toc: CONTENTS Cover Title Page Copyright Dedication FOREWORD PREFACE “Who’s in Charge?” Onward CHAPTER ONE: BIOLOGY HAS PLANS FOR YOUR LOVE LIFE The Coolidge Effect How Did That Work Out? Mating and Bonding, the Two Pedals Why Now? Why Me? WISDOM OF THE AGES: TAOISM CHAPTER TWO: ELEPHANTS IN THE LIVING ROOM “Be Careful What You Ask For … You May Get It” Doña Quixote Sets Out A Subtle Sense of Lack “Objects in Mirror May Be Closer than They Appear” “But I Feel Great after Orgasm!” Rowing in the Same Leaky Boat Telltale Signs? The Pitfalls of Self-Sufficiency WISDOM OF THE AGES: CHRISTIANITY CHAPTER THREE: A WHALE’S TAIL “But What about Happy Marriages?” The Bermuda Triangle of Relationships “You Just Have to Find the Right Person” More Awkward Questions Wakeup Call The Glamour Hook Beyond Resentment Mating versus Bonding Teaming Up A Tough Lesson Where Had We Erred? WISDOM OF THE AGES: HINDUISM CHAPTER FOUR: AT THE HEART OF THE SEPARATION VIRUS” “Planned Obsolescence Meet Your Mammalian Brain Ruthless Eugenics—Our Mating Program More on the Monogamy Challenge Faithful but Irritable Questioning Commitment The Link between Body and Mind Urges Are Signals Your Inner Compass Dopamine—The Sharpest Arrow in Cupid’s Quiver Enter Cupid WISDOM OF THE AGES: CORTEZIA CHAPTER FIVE: THE PASSION CYCLE The Anti-Love Potion What Goes Up Must Come Down Dopamine—The Lynchpin Addiction—Quest for More Misery Balance and Bonding Scientific Evidence of Lingering Changes after Orgasm Prolactin Testosterone and Friends What about Men? The Perception Game Tainting Love with Fear WISDOM OF THE AGES: MALE CONTINENCE CHAPTER SIX: THE ROAD TO EXCESS Yesterday’s Genes Memories That Pack a Punch “Where’s My Tribe?” The Agony of Excess Saccharin and the Shakes Porn’s Surprising Lesson “Too Much of a Good Thing … Is Even Better!” Cross-Tolerances The Plastic Brain In a Rut Deceptive Cues Dopamine and Distorted Perception Jacking Up Dopamine Reward Circuitry Overload Brain Training How Does It Feel to Be a Guinea Pig? WISDOM OF THE AGES: KAREZZA—ALICE B. STOCKHAM, MD CHA