Eyes Wide Open Marie-Louise von Franz, Honorary Patron Studies in Jungian Psychology by Jungian Analysts Daryl Sharp, General Editor EYES WIDE OPEN Late Thoughts Another Jungian Romance DARYL SHARP For MP and Nurse Pam, for my daughters Tanya Claire and Jessy Kate, and for myself The events, characters and situations in this book are neither wholly true nor entirely fictional. Rather they are embroideries on reality, which, after all, is the essence of any romance. Names, of course, have been changed, mostly. Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication Sharp, Daryl, 1936Eyes wide open: late thoughts: another Jungian romance / Daryl Sharp. (Studies in Jungian psychology by Jungian analysts; 117) Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN-10: 1-894574-18-4 ISBN-13: 978-1-894574-18-1 1. Self-actualization (Psychology). 2. Jungian psychology. I. Title. II. Series. BF175.S4915 2007 158.1 C2006-903190-8 Copyright © 2007 by Daryl Sharp. All rights reserved. INNER CITY BOOKS Box 1271, Station Q, Toronto, ON M4T 2P4, Canada Telephone (416) 927-0355 / Fax (416) 924-1814 Web site: www.innercitybooks.net. E-mail:
[email protected] Honorary Patron: Marie-Louise von Franz. Publisher and General Editor: Daryl Sharp. Senior Editor: Victoria Cowan. Office Manager: Scott Milligen. INNER CITY BOOKS was founded in 1980 to promote the understanding and practical application of the work of C.G. Jung. nd Cover: 1st & 2 Growth (“The Dice Man”), 8’ x 10’ x 11’, 1985. Jerry Pethick, sculptor, Hornby Island, B.C., Canada. Photo by Christian Bahier. Printed and bound in Canada by Transcontinental Printing Inc. CONTENTS Preface 7 Introduction: What Next? 11 1 Mayday Malone’s 15 2 Becoming Conscious 29 3 Self-Knowledge 36 4 Personality and Individuation 42 5 Sons and Mothers 50 6 The Good and the Better 61 7 Adam Brillig’s Fling with Fame 71 8 Neurosis and the Self-Regulating Psyche 83 9 The Me and the We: Vocation, Groups and Inflation 98 10 The Religious Dimension 104 11 Affairs of the Heart 111 12 Blood-Letting 120 13 On Loving 125 14 Aging and Dying 132 Bibliography 149 Index 152 See final pages for descriptions of other Inner City Books The greatest thing you’ll ever learn Is just to love and be loved in return. —Sarah Vaughan, “Nature Boy.” I wish you bluebirds in the spring To give your heart a song to sing And then a kiss But more than this I wish you love. And in July a lemonade To cool you in some leafy glade I wish you health And more than wealth I wish you love. —Rod Stewart, “I Wish You Love.” It came to me that reform should begin at home, and since that day I have not had time to remake the world. —Will Durant, historian (1885-1981). Preface Funny how things happen. I was going through the manuscript for the previous book in this trilogy, On Staying Awake, editing it for the umpteenth time, changing a word here, a comm