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Contents 1. Could you be a sexually dominant woman? 2. How did you get this book? 3. What is sexual domination? 4. Styles of sexual domination 5. Playing with helplessness 6. Playing with roles 7. Playing with sensation 8. Winding down 9. How will you feel afterwards? 10. Tips for physical and emotional safety 11. A basic session 12. Some notes for your submissive 13. Tips on partner-finding appendix: How to go further afterword: Keep in touch! Other books from Greenery Press
This book is dedicated to my teacher, my master, my slave and my lover. (Yes, Vm lucky enough to have them all – in one!) Also to Tom B., Mic Bergen, Dossie East on, and all the other wonderful tops, bottoms, switches andfriends who go on helping me learn and grow. And to Bob S., who made the First Edition possible. Special thanks for this Second Edition go to Kai, Barbara, Lynn, Katy, Andrew, Lori and Beth. Also to the many men and women who have written to give me encouragement and feedback.
An important note: For simplicity’s sake, I’ll use the pronoun “he” to refer to your submissive partner throughout this book. However, most of the information here can be used by any sexually dominant woman, straight, bi, or lesbian. (It can also be used by dominant men – but that’s another book!)
Who am I? I’m Lady Green – which is obviously not my real name, but I’ve been writing under it for six years now. I’m in my mid-forties, average in looks, to all appearances a fairly standard middleaged woman. But for almost fifteen years now, one of my chief pleasures in life has been exploring sexual domination.
I play with men and women. I also “switch,” which means that I enjoy being dominated as well as dominating. I make my living as a writer, publisher and sexuality educator. But that’s enough about me. Let’s talk about you…
1 Could you be a sexually dominant woman? Yes No Maybe I enjoy acting, costume parties and/or role-playing games like “Charades” and “Truth or I Dare.” I am sexually imaginative and enjoy adventures like buying sexy clothes or toys, or having sex in unusual circumstances or environments. I sometimes enjoy sex in which one partner remains passive while the other one “directs the action.” I am drawn to “risky” activities like bungee jumping, white-water rafting, mountain climbing and skydiving. I am a good communicator, with the ability to decide what I want and explain it to my partner, as well as to listen carefully to his desires and fantasies. I am “together” enough to take responsibility for my partner’s wellbeing as well as my own during a pre-negotiated time period.
Give yourself 10 points for every “Yes” answer,