Pucker Up: A Hands-on Guide To Ecstatic Sex

PUCKER UP A Hands-on Guide to Ecstatic Sex TRISTAN TAORMINO All illustrations © 2000 by Fish. The illustration “Female Anatomy, Front View” first appeared in The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World at Your Fingertips, by Rebecca Chalker (New York: Seven Stories Press, 2000). The illustrations “Female Anatomy, Side View,” “Male Anatomy,” and “Anorectal Anatomy” first appeared in The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, by Tristan Taormino (San Francisco: Cleis Press, 1997). PUCKER UP. Copyright © 2001 by Tristan Taormino. All rights reserved under International and Pan-American Copyright Conventions. By payment of the required fees, you have been granted the non-exclusive, non-transferable right to access and read the text of this e-book on-screen. No part of this text may be reproduced, transmitted, down-loaded, decompiled, reverse engineered, or stored in or introduced into any information storage and retrieval system, in any form or by any means, whether electronic or mechanical, now known or hereinafter invented, without the express written permission of PerfectBound™. "Adventure Girl" material copyright © 1998 by Tristan Taormino. From On Our Backs and puckerup.com -reprinted by permission. PerfectBound ™ and the PerfectBound™ logo are trademarks of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. Adobe Acrobat E-Book Reader edition v 1. September 2001 ISBN 0-06-008694-7 Print edition first published in 2001 by HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 for Red Contents Acknowledgments Introduction The Joy of Fucking 1 Redefining Erogenous Zones and Orgasm Sexual Anatomy and Response 2 Tell Me What You Want Erotic Desire, Sexual Communication, and Safer Sex 3 Making the Basics Even Better Hand Jobs and Oral Sex 4 What You Need to Get the Job Done Sex Tools and Sex Toys 5 Hit the Spot G-Spot Stimulation and Female Ejaculation vi 6 • CONTENTS Back-Door Betties and Bend-Over Boys Anal Sex for Him and Her 7 Be Your Own Fairy Godmother! Fantasy and Role-Playing 8 Stroke Books, Skin Magazines, and Blue Movies Adding Erotica to Sex 9 Beyond Whips and Chains Exploring BDSM Afterword: A Brief Erotic Manifesto Notes Resources Appendix: Adventure Girl My Date with Betty Dodson I Came! I Shot! I Go to a Swingers' Party About the Author Credits About the Publisher Acknowledgments I am so thankful to my original editor, Tia Maggini, who worked her butt off on the book; her diligent readings of the manuscript and insightful suggestions were invaluable to the final product. Publisher Judith Regan, senior editor Dana Albarella, and everyone at ReganBooks supported me with advice, ideas, and plenty of encouragement. Fish created the unique illustrations which bring my words to life, and I feel blessed to collaborate with such a talented artist again. Richard Mitchell worked his incredible magic when he took the inspired cover photo, and makeup artist Tatijana Suljic-Shoan made me glamorous. Kudos too to art director Ron de la Peña for his fabulous cover design. Thanks to my agent, Andrew Blauner, for all his hard work (and for Friday night phone calls!). He continues to be an unflinching advocate, champion, and friend to me, which I appreciate more than he probably knows. I have learned something from every editor I have ever worked with, but, most recently, I owe a debt of gratitude to my editor at The Village Voice, Doug Simmons, whose guidance has deeply influenced my sex writing. Felice Newman, Frédérique Delacoste, Don Weise, and everyone at Cleis Press were there when it all began. viii • ACKNOWLEDGMENTS Claire Potter was a great teacher. There are dozens