Divorce Busting: A Step-by-step Approach To Making Your Marriage Loving Again

To my mother, father, and two brothers. To my children, Danielle and Zachary, who continually remind me of what's important in life. Most of all, to my husband, Jim, whose never-ending support, charitable ear, down-to-earth advice, and painstaking editorial suggestions made this book a reality. He selflessly nurtured me during my intense year-long affair with writing and did so with­ out complaining. The gift of his friendship has not gone unno­ ticed or unappreciated. Acknowledgments Although only one name appears on the book’s cover, many peo­ ple have generously contributed their time to making this book a reality. I am fortunate to have colleagues, friends, and family who have provided support and/or insightful feedback on the manu­ script, such as George Enns, Eve Lipchik, Tony Heath, Rich Si­ mon, Mike Nichols, Suzanne Barrows, and Diane Woodruff. A special thanks to Mike Nichols for having spread good rumors about my work. I am also extremely appreciative of my colleagues at the Amer­ ican Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, particularly Diane Sollee and Virginia Rutter, for their support and for pro­ viding me with the opportunity to “spread the word.” In addition, there are many colleagues who have greatly influ­ enced my thinking during the years I’ve been practicing therapy. The staff at the Brief Family Therapy Center has been one such major influence. I especially want to thank Steve de Shazer, who taught me to be “simple-minded.” He undoubtedly inspired many ideas presented throughout this book. In particular, I am grateful to Ar