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First published in 1977, The Joy of Gay Sex became an immediate bestseller and a touchstone of the emerging gay consciousness, offering a delectable first glimpse of gay life and love for countless gay men. Throughout the 1980s and 1990s, it has remained an essential reference for gay men worldwide.The changes to gay life over the past decade, for better and for worse, are reflected in this fully revised and expanded new third edition. Noted psychologist Dr. Charles Silverstein has teamed up once again with critically acclaimed novelist Felice Picano, updating every single entry and adding nearly thirty new entries. The authors have succeeded in bringing the book up to date for a new century and a new generation of readers while maintaining its signature brand of positive, permissive, and responsible advice.Invaluable as a sex guide, a resource on building self-esteem, and a coming-out guide for young gay men, The Joy of Gay Sex covers the ins and outs of gay life alphabetically from "anus" to "wrestling." The authors continue to provide advice about safe sex in all of its varieties, from techniques and positions to fostering intimacy and creativity in relationships. They also address the many emotional and relationship-oriented issues in gay life, such as loneliness, depression, and letting go. Expanded entries provide cutting-edge health information on the newest treatments for HIV, strategies for avoiding STDs, and tips for getting the best care from your doctor.The Joy of Gay Sex serves as a general reference on a number of diverse topics important to gay life and culture, ranging from the history of the gay rights movement to the history of condoms, from body decoration to spirituality. Scores of new entries address topics such as on-line dating, cosmetic surgery, coming out at work, sexual harassment, and much more. Acclaimed artist Joseph Phillips spices up the proceedings with fifty new illustrations.
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TheJoyof Gay Sex Also by Dr. Charles Silverstein A Family Matter: A Parents’ Guide to Homosexuality The Joy of Gay Sex (with Edmund White) Man to Man: Gay Couples in America Gays, Lesbians and Their Therapists: Studies in Psychotherapy The New Joy of Gay Sex (with Felice Picano) Also by Felice Picano The Lure Ambidextrous Men Who Loved Me Like People in History A House on the Ocean, A House on the Bay The Book of Lies Looking Glass Lives The New York Years Onyx TheJoyof Gay Sex Ful ly Revised and Expanded Third Edition Dr. Charles Silverstein and Felice Picano Illustrations by Joseph Phillips This book is dedicated to Ma m a A l b i n a ACKNOWLEDGMENTS Various people advised us on technical aspects of this book. We thank them all, including Joe Arkins, Bill Bartelt, Carlos, Barry Cream, Betty of Boston, Brian King, Tony Neto, Barry Nevins, Robert Padgug, Dan William, M.D., and Les Wright. CONTENTS Introduction xv List of Entries Anus Barebacking Bars Baths Bears Bisexuality Blow Job Body Decoration Body Fluids and Disease Body Image Bondage and Discipline Booze and Highs Bottom Bottoms Up Buns Camping Celibacy Chat Rooms Civil Rights Clubs Cock Size Coming Out Compulsive Sex Condoms Cosmetic (Plastic) Surgery Couples Cruising Daddy/Son Fantasies 1 1 3 4 5 8 10 12 14 15 17 19 22 24 26 27 29 30 31 34 36 38 42 45 48 50 55 58 xii Contents Dangerous Sex Depression Dirty Talk Domestic Partnerships Domestic Violence Drug Abuse Drugs and Sex Early Abuse Effeminacy Etiquette Exhibitionism and Voyeurism Face-to-Face Feet Fetish Fidelity and Monogamy Finding a Physician First Time Fisting Foreskin Friendship Frottage Fuck Buddies Gay Families Gay Liberation Gay Politics Growing Older Guilt Gyms Hair Hands HIV Disease Homophobia Hustlers Impotence Insurance Jealousy, Envy, and Poss