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With ample space to unburden the heart and the soul, this companion workbook helps grievers explore the 10 essential touchstones for finding hope and healing. The exercises throughout the journal recall the content of the book and ask corresponding questions about the survivor's unique grief journey.
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The Understanding Your Suicide Grief Journal
Also by Alan Wolfelt The Handbook for Companioning the Mourner: Eleven Essential Principles Healing Your Traumatized Heart:100 Practical Ideas After Someone You Love Dies a Sudden, Violent Death The Journey Through Grief: Reflections on Healing Understanding Your Suicide Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart The Understanding Your Suicide Grief Support Group Guide: Meeting Plans for Facilitators The Wilderness of Suicide Grief: Finding Your Way
Companion Press is dedicated to the education and support of both the bereaved and bereavement caregivers. We believe that those who companion the bereaved by walking with them as they journey in grief have a wondrous opportunity: to help others embrace and grow through grief—and to lead fuller, more deeply-lived lives themselves because of this important ministry.
For a complete catalog and ordering information, write or call: Companion Press The Center for Life and Loss Transition 3735 Broken Bow Road Fort Collins, Colorado 80526 (970) 226-6050 www.centerforloss.com
The Understanding Your Suicide Grief Journal
A companion workbook to the book Understanding Your Suicide Grief
Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Fort Collins, Colorado An imprint of the Center for Loss and Life Transition
© 2009 by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior permission of the publisher. Companion Press is an imprint of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, 3735 Broken Bow Road, Fort Collins, Colorado 80526. Printed in the United States of America.
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ISBN: 978-1-879651-59-3
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Contents Introduction
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Welcome: An Invitation to Open Your Heart
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Touchstone One Open to the Presence of Your Loss
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Touchstone Two Dispel the Misconceptions About Suicide and Grief and Mourning
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Touchstone Three Explore the Uniqueness of Your Suicide Grief
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Touchstone Four Explore Your Feelings of Loss
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Touchstone Five Recognize You Are Not Crazy
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Touchstone Six Understand the Six Needs of Mourning
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Touchstone Seven Nurture Yourself
111
Touchstone Eight Reach Out for Help
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Touchstone Nine Seek Reconciliation, Not Resolution
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Touchstone Ten Appreciate Your Transformation
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Continuing Your Journey
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Introduction “Writing is the most profound way of codifying your thoughts, the best way of learning from yourself who you are and what you believe.” Warren Bennis
I have written this journal as a companion to my book Understanding Your Suicide Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart. My hope is that this guided journal can be a “safe place” for you to explore your experience with the ten essential Touchstones. As you tell your story, your words will guide you on your unique journey through the wilderness of your grief. Your words will also give testimony to the love you will always have for the person who has died. You can use the journal not only to understand your grief, but to remember, celebrate, and commemorate the life of the person t