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Men’s Sexual Health is a breakthrough book about vital and satisfying male sexuality. It presents a new model of male and couple sexuality, which establishes positive, realistic expectations of pleasure and satisfaction, as opposed to the self-defeating traditional demand for perfect intercourse performance. Men and couples who adopt this approach will enjoy sexuality throughout the lifespan. The authors introduce the new “smart thinking,” focused on an integration of mind and body, which confronts the myths and misunderstandings which limit male sexual growth. The book will help men and women understand how to pursue sexual and relational health, overcome sexual problems, with the goal of greater acceptance and satisfaction. The book advocates for positive, realistic Good-Enough Sex which will significantly enhance male and couple sexual satisfaction.
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Men’s Sexual Health
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Men’s Sexual Health FITNESS FOR SATISFYING SEX
BARRY W. MCCARTHY AND MICHAEL E. METZ
New York London
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Routledge Taylor & Francis Group 270 Madison Avenue New York, NY 10016
Routledge Taylor & Francis Group 2 Park Square Milton Park, Abingdon Oxon OX14 4RN
© 2008 by Taylor & Francis Group, LLC Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis Group, an Informa business Printed in the United States of America on acid-free paper 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 International Standard Book Number-13: 978-0-415-95638-3 (Softcover) No part of this book may be reprinted, reproduced, transmitted, or utilized in any form by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying, microfilming, and recording, or in any information storage or retrieval system, without written permission from the publishers. Trademark Notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identification and explanation without intent to infringe. Visit the Taylor & Francis Web site at http://www.taylorandfrancis.com and the Routledge Web site at http://www.routledge.com
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To my grandsons Torren Michael McCarthy and Liam Karl McCarthy with the hope that they grow up in a world that celebrates healthy male, female, and couple sexuality Barry McCarthy
To all the men and women; parents; and healthcare, clergy, media, and teaching professionals who are promoting positive, healthy sexuality Michael E. Metz
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Contents
Acknowledgments
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The Truth About Sex
1
2
Healthy Thinking About Male Sexuality: What You Need to Know and Learn
17
3
Boys to Men: What Is Normal and Healthy?
37
4
Vive le Difference: His Sexuality and Her Sexuality
59
5
The Mantra of Healthy Sexuality: Intimacy, Pleasuring, Eroticism, and Satisfaction
87
6
Good-Enough Male and Couple Sexuality
99
7
Fitness, Physical Well-Being, and Sexual Function
121
8
Lifelong Healthy Sexuality—You Are a Sexual Man Until You Die
135
Dealing With Sexual and Health Problems
147
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10 Valuing an Intimate, Erotic Sexual Life
181
Epilogue: The Nuts and Bolts for Your Sexual Health
189
Appendix A: Choosing an Individual, Couple, or Sex Therapist
193
Appendix B: Resources
197
References
201
Index