How To Avoid Falling In Love With A Jerk

What the Experts Are Saying About How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk “I have never read a book with more practical wisdom for finding real love and a healthy marriage.” —William J. Doherty, Ph.D., author of TAKE BACK YOUR MARRIAGE “Eye-opening and practical, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk is for anyone who’s tired of dating and wants to finally find ‘the one.’” —John Gray, author of MEN A RE FROM MARS , WOMEN A RE FROM VENUS “The tool for finding the love of your life. John Van Epp and his RAM model make it possible for you to assess the five key areas when picking a partner.” —Jon Carlson, Psy.D., Ed.D., author of TIME FOR A BETTER MARRIAGE “ An insightful and creative contribution to managing the complexity of choosing a life partner. I heartily recommend it.” —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT and K EEPING THE LOVE YOU FIND : A PERSONAL GUIDE “Don’t be part of the ‘where-was-this-book-when-I-needed-it?’ crowd. It’s not too late—read it now!” —Pat Love, Ed.D., author of THE TRUTH A BOUT LOVE AND HOT MONOGAMY “The best way to avoid walking on eggshells in your marriage and living with resentment, anger, or emotional abuse is to choose your partner well. This book will help any seriousminded person to pick well.” —Steven Stosny, Ph.D., author of YOU DON’T HAVE TO TAKE IT A NYMORE : TURN YOUR R ESENTFUL , A NGRY, OR EMOTIONALLY A BUSIVE R ELATIONSHIP INTO A COMPASSIONATE , LOVING ONE “Follow John Van Epp’s road map and create the lifelong marriage of your dreams. This is an important book that easily wins the Smart Marriages seal of approval.” —Diane Sollee, founder and director, www.smartmarriages.com “John Van Epp will teach you everything you need to know about picking a loving partner and getting your marriage right from the start.” —Michele Weiner-Davis, author of DIVORCE BUSTING H OW TO AVOID FALLING IN L OVE WITH A J ERK The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind J O H N VA N E P P, P h . D . New York Chicago San Francisco Lisbon London Madrid Mexico City Milan New Delhi San Juan Seoul Singapore Sydney Toronto Copyright © 2007 by John Van Epp. All rights reserved. Manufactured in the United States of America. Except as permitted under the United States Copyright Act of 1976, no part of this publication may be reproduced or distributed in any form or by any means, or stored in a database or retrieval system, without the prior written permission of the publisher. 0-07-164249-8 The material in this eBook also appears in the print version of this title: 0-07-154842-4. All trademarks are trademarks of their respective owners. Rather than put a trademark symbol after every occurrence of a trademar