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Copyright
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1985 by Arnold A. Lazarus
Fourth Printing, December, 1991
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Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data Lazarus, Arnold A. Marital myths. 1
.
Marriage.
2.
Interpersonal relations. 1985 HQ734.L362 ISBN 0-915166-51-8 (pbk.) 3.
I.
Communication
in marriage.
Title.
306. 8'1
85-14362
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MARITAL MYTHS
CONTENTS
MYTH MYTH MYTH
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INTRODUCTION
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HUSBANDS AND WIVES SHOULD BE BEST FRIENDS
7
ROMANTIC LOVE MAKES A GOOD MARRIAGE
12
EXTRAMARITAL AFFAIRS WILL DESTROY A MARRIAGE
18
MYTHU:
IF
MYTH
HUSBANDS AND WIVES SHOULD DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER
if
5:
MYTHif6:
YOU FEEL GUILTY, CONFESS
YOU HAVE TO WORK AT MARRIAGE
24
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30
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39
MYTH a?: A HAPPY MARRIAGE REQUIRES TOTAL TRUST
MYTH
if
8:
49
GOOD SPOUSES SHOULD
MAKE THEIR PARTNERS HAPPY
54
MYTHff9: IN GOOD MARRIAGES,
HUSBANDS AND WIVES 'LET IT ALL
HANG our
59
MYTHHIO: GOOD HUSBANDS
DO HOUSEHOLD REPAIRS; GOOD WIVES DO THE LAUNDRY
MYTH nil: HA VINGA
66
CHILD
WILL IMPROVE A
BAD MARRIAGE
73
MYTH ffl2: MARRIA GE SHOULD BE A 5050 PARTNERSHIP
78
MYTH #i5: MARRIA GE CAN FULFILL ALL YOUR DREAMS
83
MYTHnU: TRUE LOVERS AUTOMATICALLY KNOW EACH OTHER'S THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
MYTH #75: AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE IS BETTER
MYTH
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1 6:
THAN A BROKEN HOME
A HUSBAND'S AMBITION COMES BEFORE A WIFE'S CAREER
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89
...
95
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.104
MYTH #77; IF YOUR SPOUSE WANTS TO LEA VE, HANG ON AND FIGHT
109
MYTH ^18: DEAD LOVE CAN SOMETIMES BE REKINDLED
77^
MYTH §19: COMPETITION BETWEEN SPOUSES ADDS SPARKLE TO A MARRIAGE
120
MYTH nO: YOU SHOULD MAKE YOUR SPOUSE OVER INTO
MYTH #27:
'A
BETTER PERSON'
125
OPPOSITES A TTRA CT
AND COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER
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