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Partners In Power
living in kinky
by
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greenery press
© 2003 by Jack Rinella All rights reserved. Except for brief passages quoted in newspaper, magazine, radio, television or Internet reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying or recording or by information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Publisher. Cover design: Johnnylnk Published in the United States by Greenery Press, 3403 Piedmont Ave. #301, Oakland, CA 94611, www.greenerypress.com. ISBN 1-890159-52-2
Contents
PREFACE .............. ........ ... ............ ......... ................ .. ..... .. ......... .. ................. I
1.
LEATH ER CULTURE AND VoCAJlULARY ........ ..................................... .. ......... 1
2.
O UR KI NKY
3.
THE CONTINUUM OF RELATIONSHIPS ............................... ......... .... .......... 21
4.
TH E ARCHETYPES OF SM RELATIONSHIPS................................................. 31
vALUES ..................... .. .......................................................... 9
Masters and slaves ................................................ .......... ....... .... 32 Daddies and their boys ................................ ......... ..................... 40 Tops and bottoms ... ...... ......... ... ... ..... ...... ............. .... ................. 42 Service Tops and Pushy Bottoms ................................... ......... .. . 45 Versatility ............... ................................................... .... ........... . 46 Pro-Dommes and Their Clients ...................... ....................... ... 47 Human Animals and Their Handlers ........................... .. ........... 50 Fuck Buddies, Tricks, and Others .................... .............. ... ........ . 54 5.
KNow Y ouRSELF ................................................ ................................... 57
6.
WHI CH WAY Do You CHoosE? ............................................................. 75
7.
FINDING PARTNERS ...... .. ............. ...... .. ......... ...... ............ ........... ............. 87
8.
LOVE I N THE 21 ST CENTURY ... .. ... .... ... .... .... ...... ............ ....... .... ............ 107
9.
MONOGAMY
& POLYAMORY ............................. .... .................................
115
10. GROUPS AND FAMILIES.......... .... .. ..... ......................... ... .............. .... ....... 123 11. ELEPHANTS IN THE ROOM .... .. ............................... ...... .... ...... ... ............. 131
Posers .... ...... ............. ... ....... .. ... ........................ ..... .. .. .... .. ......... 131 Abusers and Addicts .... .. .... ............................................... ....... 1350n-line Typers ................................................... ..... ....... ......... 138 Hopes and Heartbreaks .. ........ .......... ................... ............... ..... 140
Changing the Relationship ..... .... .. ...... .. .. .. .. .. .......... .. ........... .... 141 Breaking Up .. .... ......... ........ ........ ... .. .... .... ...... ....... ... ...... ... .... ... 142 Love Conquers All .... ... ..... ... .. ..... ........ .. .... .. .. .. .... .... .. .. ..... ... .... 142 Long-Distance Relationships .... .. .... .... ...... ..... ...... ...... .... ... ....... 143 Negativity ..... ... ... ...... ..... ....... .. .. ..... ... .. .. ....... ........ .......... .. ....... 145 Health ......... ... .. ... ..... .... .... ... ... ... ..... ...... ..... ... ..... .. ..... .... ....... .... 148 Emotions ... ..