BEING PRESENT FOR YOUR NURSERY AGE CHILD BEING PRESENT FOR YOUR NURSERY AGE CHILD Observing, Understanding, and Helping Children Edited by Jeanne Magagna and Patrizia Pasquini The Tempo Lineare Project First published in Italy in 2007 as a self-published book First published in 2014 by Karnac Books Ltd 118 Finchley Road, London NW3 5HT Copyright © 2014 to Jeanne Magagna and Patrizia Pasquini for the edited collection, and to the individual authors for their contributions. The rights of the contributors to be identified as the authors of this work have been asserted in accordance with §§ 77 and 78 of the Copyright Design and Patents Act 1988. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data A C.I.P. for this book is available from the British Library ISBN: 978 1 78220 141 0 Edited, designed and produced by The Studio Publishing Services Ltd www.publishingservicesuk.co.uk e-mail:
[email protected] Printed in Great Britain CONTENTS ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS ix ABOUT THE EDITORS AND CONTRIBUTORS xi INTRODUCTION by Jeanne Magagna xiii PART I: ON LEARNING TO OBSERVE CHAPTER ONE The Tempo Lineare project Patrizia Pasquini 3 CHAPTER TWO Listening to, and sharing, the experience of growth Patrizia Pasquini 13 CHAPTER THREE Nursery as therapist: understanding the “present moment” of the child Jeanne Magagna 25 CHAPTER FOUR Weaving bonds: Tempo Lineare, a school for life Carla Busato Barbaglio 37 PART II: HOW THE YOUNG MIND IS BUILT CHAPTER FIVE Emotional and cognitive development: from chaotic experiences to experiences made “thinkable” Patrizia Pasquini v 47 vi CONTENTS CHAPTER SIX Becoming a parent of an adopted child Carla Busato Barbaglio 57 CHAPTER SEVEN Primitive protections used by fostered and adopted children Jeanne Magagna 67 CHAPTER EIGHT An adopted child developing within a nursery group Patrizia Pasquini 87 CHAPTER NINE Feeling good, feeling bad; being good and being bad Jeanne Magagna 95 CHAPTER TEN The observation of children with eating difficulties Patrizia Pasquini 113 PART III: COMPASSIONATELY COMPREHENDING CHILDREN PLAYING CHAPTER ELEVEN A way of looking at a child that contains and creates meaning Carla Busato Barbaglio 123 CHAPTER TWELVE A special time for playing and thinking together Jeanne Magagna 129 CHAPTER THIRTEEN Developing altruistic skills in Tempo Lineare: “the Island of Puppies” Patrizia Pasquini 147 CHAPTER FOURTEEN Creating