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Super Sexual Orgasm A Woman’s Guide to Guaranteed Satisfaction Also Published as Discover Your Sensual Potential Barbara Keesling, Ph.D. Publishing history: Titled Super Sexual Orgasm (HarperCollins, 1997); titled Discover Your Sensual Potential (HarperPerennial, 1999); titled Super Sexual Orgasm (PerfectBound, 2003). This title has otherwise not been updated since its original publication. SUPER SEXUAL ORGASM: A WOMAN’S GUIDE TO GUARANTEED SATISFACTION. Copyright © 1997, 1999 by Barbara Keesling, Ph.D. All rights reserved under International and Pan-American Copyright Conventions. By payment of the required fees, you have been granted the non-exclusive, non-transferable right to access and read the text of this e-book on-screen. No part of this text may be reproduced, transmitted, down-loaded, decompiled, reverse engineered, or stored in or introduced into any information storage and retrieval system, in any form or by any means, whether electronic or mechanical, now known or hereinafter invented, without the express written permission of PerfectBound™. PerfectBound™ and the PerfectBound™ logo are trademarks of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. Adobe Acrobat eBook Reader June 2003 ISBN 0-06-058453-X About the Author Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., is the author of Super Sexual Orgasm (published by HarperPerennial as Discover Your Sensual Potential) and How to Make Love All Night (And Drive a Woman Wild)—both titles are available from PerfectBound e-books. Dr. Keesling is also the author of, among other works, The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl’s Sex; Rx Sex: Making Love Is the Best Medicine; How to Talk Sexy to the One You Love (And Drive Each Other Wild in Bed); and Sexual Pleasure: Reaching New Heights of Sexual Arousal & Intimacy. She has taught human sexuality and psychopathology at several southern California universities. Contents Introduction Part I: Gaining Control 1 1. Secrets 3 2. Muscle 19 3. Motion 47 4. Control 71 Part II: Enjoying Surrender 85 5. Bonding 87 6. Icing 107 Appendix A: Comfort 133 Appendix B: Toys 156 About the Author 158 Selected Works by Barbara Keesling, Ph.D. 160 Credits 159 Front Cover Copyright 161 About the Publisher 162 4 INTRODUCTION W ithin every woman’s body lies the potential for extraordinary pleasure—pleasure so consuming and compelling that, once experienced, it immediately and permanently redefines a woman’s understanding of her own sexuality. Every woman deserves to discover this potential and embrace this pleasure, and I have written this book to be your guide. I am a sex therapist in southern California, and I have been writing, teaching, and working with individuals in 5 6 / BARBARA KEESLING, PH.D. private practice for many years. I believe sex is one of the purest forms of human endeavor. Sex is kaleidoscopic in its expressive and experiential possibility. It can be joyously exuberant. It can be a thrilling adventure into the unknown. It can be soothing and centering. Sex cuts to the core of who you are as an individual. It is the ultimate arena of sharing between people. It is the nourishing confluence of so many special elements: touch, physicality, communication, play, genital activity, arousal, orgasm, and intimacy. But none of this is possible if we are not connected to our own sensual potential. Of all the things I have learned in my journeys as a woman, a sex therapist, a healer, a teacher, and a partner, there is one thing that stands alone in the realm of sexual fulfillment—something I call Super Sexual Orgasm. While there are many wonderful road